The following Twelve Rules For Parents (who wish to turn their children into juvenile delinquents) have been drawn by the Police Department of Houston, Texas and circulated in leaflet form. You may find them interesting (note that I made some very small changes), and let’s just say that I hope this is not your parenting style:
1. Begin at infancy to give the child everything he wants. In this way, he will grow up to believe the world owes him a living.
2. When he picks up bad words as a little child, laugh at him. This will make him think he is cute.
3. Never give him any spiritual training. Wait until he is 21 and then let him decide for himself.
4. Avoid the use of the word “wrong”. It may develop a guilt complex. This will condition him to believe later, when he is arrested for stealing the car, that society is against him and he is persecuted.
5. Pick up everything he leaves lying around – books, shoes, clothes. Do everything for him so that he will be experienced in throwing all responsibility to others.
6. Let him read any printed matter he can get his hands on. Be careful that the silverware and drinking glasses are sterilized, but let his mind feast on garbage.
7. Quarrel frequently in the presence of the children. In this way, they will not be too shocked when their own home is broken up later.
8. Give the child all the spending money he wants. Never let him earn his own. Why should he have things as though he had to work hard for them?
9. Satisfy his every craving for food, drink, and comfort. See that every sensual desire is gratified. Denial may lead to harmful frustration.
10. Take his part against neighbors, teachers, policemen. They are all prejudiced against your child.
11. When he gets into real trouble, apologize for yourself by saying, “I never could do anything with him.”
12. Prepare for the life of grief. You will likely have it.
Now I’ll segue to the material where I got this from, the upcoming 3rd lesson of our PARENTING THAT MAKES A DIFFERENCE study that my young couples group has been taking up every Friday night for the past month.
The title for this session is HOW TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN EFFECTIVELY, which is very apt for times like these where it seems so hard to do so. It’s a great session with so much great content that we as parents oh so need.
Here’s the session outline, in case you’re interested to find out more:
I. The Purpose of Discipline
II. The Basics of Discipline
III. What do you discipline your child for?
IV. How to Discipline
V. How to Spank Your Child (hint: nearly all Filipino parents do it terribly wrong)
VI. Training Young Ones
VII. Training Teenagers
Yes, parenting styles vary, and there should be freedom for such variation. However, the advice/lessons that Peter Tan-Chi gives are a huge help, no matter what parenting style we have. So, we will know the ins and outs of how to discipline your child this coming Friday, September 30, 2011. My group meets 7pm at CCF, and we rotate the responsibilities of serving a light dinner to the others.
There have been many praises for PARENTING THAT MAKES A DIFFERENCE since we introduced it. Guests say that it is far, far superior to anything they have encountered in their own communities, and they are so blessed by Peter Tan chi’s life and powerful example. (Check out testimonies of his children here and here)
Here's my blog post of Session 2
Here's my blog post of Session 3
God bless you all.